Genevieve Fox, a journalist formerly the Features Editor at The Daily Telegraph, where she also ran the Daily Telegraph Book Club, is the author of Milkshakes and Morphine: A Memoir of Love and Loss (2018). (February 2018)
From the moment of my diagnosis, I pondered the nature of love: Had I left my sons enough of it? Does love endure? Is love bankable? I stumble upon the answer courtesy of an illness that forced me to look back on a childhood marked by loss and love’s absence. In an orphan’s life such as my own, I only now see that if you’re parentless and live on your wits, you look out for love, take it if you find it, look out for more. But you don’t bank the love; you live off reserves, and do not accrue funds. My sons, by contrast, are emotionally entitled; they default to a state of happiness whose roots reach deep, deep into the constancy of love.