Sady Doyle is a writer whose work has appeared in The Guardian, The Atlantic, The Awl, and Buzzfeed News. She is also the author of Trainwreck: The Women We Love to Hate, Mock, and Fear… and Why (2016). (December 2018)

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A Kind of Forgiveness

Edvard Munch: Inger on the Beach, 1889

For much of my life, I was against forgiveness, particularly for men. I held to my anger, proudly. Refusing to forgive the men in my life was a way of valuing myself. Staying angry meant that the harm done to me was real, and mattered; it meant that I would never again say I am not worthy. Forgiveness happens involuntarily, as a kind of psychological climate change; you wake up one day with the rocky shores of your resentment gone, swallowed by the sea.